Why the rush? Why not? We knew we wanted to be together, so why wait? We were ready for our two lives to become one (Genesis 2:24)…
There have been many people that I graduated with who have now gotten married as well. However, the sad reality is that many of those who were married after me are now also divorced.
That led someone to ask me, “What makes your marriage different? You actually like being married. You both love each other. You don’t fight and bicker like other couples I know. It seems like you want to be married to each other…even after 5 years.”
The only way that I can answer that is, “It’s God.”
In my opinion, no one is really ready to get married, no matter your age. Two sinners attempting “happily ever after” is a recipe for disaster. Honestly, the divorce rate doesn’t surprise me…we are a culture saturated with sex, lust, and dreams of perfection. That is just not going to lead to a long-lasting, love-filled unity. We cannot achieve a happy joyful marriage on our own strength and ability.
We must be focused on glorifying God in our marriage. That is what makes the difference.
If we are living our lives truly aiming to glorify God in all we do (1 Corinthians 10:31) then our life (and marriage) will be different! It will be MAJORLY different!
We won’t just be married to be “happy.” Or we just won’t be happy as long as we still “feel” in love. That “in love” feeling (some will call this lust, not love) does not last forever. And that is wonderful news!
That “in love” feeling is really superficial. When that “feeling” fades and we choose to be intentional in our marriage and choose to love one another, in the good and bad, that is when we truly experience a deep, soul-sharing, united as one level of love. That is when your bond will really become cemented as a couple.
However, you cannot expect your journey to always be easy…that is just not a reality. However, when we are focused on glorifying God, we stick it out! We realize that marriage is worth the work! It’s worth putting in the effort. It’s worth it because in today’s culture, a happy, joy-filled marriage is not the norm, really is it no where close to being “normal!”
Therefore, having a happy marriage will cause people to take notice…and maybe even ask! And what an opportunity you will have to share the good news with them! To share what makes your marriage different.
My aim in my marriage is all about pointing to God. That is my focus…and that makes a difference!
So here’s the question…