The ROCKY movie series was a huge hit. This movie was not only about a fighter, but Rocky was also a lover. Sometimes in our marriages, it feels much like this movie…at times we are in a fight and other times we deem ourselves to be doting lovers.
God desires for us to become a better lover instead of a bitter fighter in our marriage relationship. One way we can be a better lover in our marriage is by responding to insults or difficulties by blessing our mate.
BLESSING?
HOW CAN THIS WORK IN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY HUSBAND?
Giving a blessing will cultivate a new attitude toward your spouse.
HOW CAN THIS WORK IN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY HUSBAND?
Giving a blessing will cultivate a new attitude toward your spouse.
1 PETER 3:8 “To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit.”
The result of this kind of attitude (as described in 1 Peter 3:8) in our marriages will be ONENESS. The fighter kind of marriage relationship is one that can be referred to as the “insult for insult” relationship. This kind of relationship is one that means to hurt the other person by hurtful words or actions.
A fighter relationship is rooted in an unforgiving and hardened heart attitude. If you are in a “insult for insult” relationship, most likely your focus is on your rights and your feelings.
“I do not deserve this!”
“I am always the one doing everything around this house!”
“I need more than this from you!”
“I am always the one doing everything around this house!”
“I need more than this from you!”
1 Peter 3:9 “Not returning evil for evil, insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead.”
SO HOW CAN WE RESPOND WITH “BLESSING” WHEN WE ARE IN A “FIGHTER” KIND OF MARRIAGE?
~Responding with kindness when we are offended.
It is our choice whether or not we respond in anger or with kindness.
~ Take the focus off of YOU and place it on God and His promises!
1 PETER 2:23 “And while being reviled, He (Jesus) did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously.
ARE YOU A FIGHTER OR A LOVER IN YOUR MARRIAGE?
If you tend to be a fighter ~
…. refrain from speaking evil to your mate (and about him too!)
….turn away from evil
….do good to your spouse
….seek to be a peacemaker and not a troublemaker
WHY NOT TURN YOUR ATTITUDE AROUND TODAY AND BE A BLESSING (a lover) TO YOUR MATE!
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This is something I am constantly challenged with this in my marriage. Thank you for the encouraging words.
Great reminder! Thanks!
Thank you for the reminder. I try to bless my husband with making his favorite meal or dessert occasionally.
I was blessed one time by hearing from his coworkers how he talked about me in a nice way of course. I want to be as much like that with talking about him.
This goes along so well with The Love Dare that I am redoing on my husband. Day one is to refrain from saying anything negative.
I recently started considering blessings and wondering why we don’t bless each other or our children/husbands anymore as they did in the OT. Why don’t we take blessings as seriously as they did then?
Laurie, thank you for your words, this morning. It is so true, blessings instead of bitterness!! I are currently dealing with these issues in my marriage. Your post is encouraging me, reassurance, from God, that I am on the right path. Thank you for allowing God to work through you, today.
Beautifully said, but with admonishment and authority. So many things change when we are intentional about blessing our mates!
Should this responsibility lay solely on the wife ?
Even when I fulfill all my responsibilities , serve diligently and strive to please my mate ,yet continues to be displeased. How does one cope with that ? Any responses of mentorship would be appreciated (happilyhiddenhermit@gmail.com)
Excellet reminder and great tips for blessing our husbands. Great post, Laurie!
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