Welcome to one of the new and exciting features At the Well – Training in Truth. This feature will be geared towards young, single, “ladies in training” that are already striving to live according to Titus 2. Here is today’s post:
“A woman’s heart should be so close to God that a man has to chase Him to find her.” –C.S. Lewis
Being the romantic heart that I am, I found myself pondering this quote. I thought about what it means regarding my love for my future husband and my love for God. I realized, yet again, how much the Lord loves and cares for me, and how he will grant the desires of my heart. The man that He has set aside for me will be one who cares enough to search for God in order to find my heart. It will be a blessed relationship because God will have been the foundation of both our lives before they were ever intertwined.
My question then becomes, how do I focus my heart on you Lord, so that the right man will find me? How do I, or any young, single, woman, keep her heart pure, as the woman in Song of Solomon repeats, “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” Song of Solomon 2:7 (NIV).
God speaks often on this issue. It often amazes me how thousands of years before I was brought into this world, God was penning verses that speak to the heart of this contemporary, modern girl.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” Matthew 6:33 (NKJ)“And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life. Don’t think I’m being harder on you than on the others. I give this same counsel in all the churches.” 1 Corinthians 7:17 (The Message)
“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2 (NIV)
When I read 1 Corinthians 7, I am convicted.
Convicted that there are times when I find my mind wandering and wishing, thinking life will be complete when ____(insert whatever comes next in your plan here) happens. I think about the “when if’s” of life, only to miss out on today.
Today, God has me exactly where He would have me be. He is guiding me to become a Titus 2 woman. He is training me in Truth. He has a perfect plan for my life; a plan that He wants to see come to fruition. This leads me back to Matthew. When I seek His kingdom, I seek Him. I become one with His plan for my life. Plans that I am not privileged to. His plans, not mine.
I know, as Esther knew, that I was created for “such a time as this.” The how’s and why’s and when’s that invade my spirit are not mine to worry about. He is in complete control of today, tomorrow, and forever. While I am prone to wonder about my future, as I train in Truth, I learn to trust. Trust completely, so that one day, my heart will be so close to God that the man of my dreams has to chase Him to find me.
For a lot of this week I have been thinking about this. I see so much encouragement for married women, and I LOVE reading it and I am so blessed to learn about what it will be like when I am married… but… I am still single.
I want to be so lost in God, yet, I am always looking for that man. About a month ago, I decided to spend this year with just Abba. No dating, no talking a lot to, and no "getting to know" any man. It sounds crazy, I know, but drastic measures need to be taken when men seem to have more attention then the Creator of my being.
Marriage is so precious to me. I love to learn about marriage, but I also NEED to learn about this season that I am in. How to be a woman of God, even in my singleness. Not a woman half of God, and half of "when this happens yadda yadda".
Thank you for this post. I am excited for this. And those scriptures are a blessing. HalleluYah.
Thank you, Maddie, for your encouraging words. And I've been married 24 years! But even us old gals can get caught up in dreaming what could be or play the what if game. God lives in the here and now, and that is how we need to live.
Blessings to you,
Carol
BABY girl!! I am SO proud of you and the relationship you have with God…you are growing in ways I wasn't when I was your age…you are turned facing the direction which is "true." Run the race and be SURE that HE has great plans for you…He has you EXACTLY where He would have you be….trusting that will allow Him to do the work in you that He has promised…
LOVE you!
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WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I loved your post!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I loved your post. It’s exactly what I needed to hear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maddie! That was a perfectly convicting and uplifting post!
I love seeing the light of Christ shine through you, girl!
What a powerful and profound way to kick start this new feature…
Love you!
Your friend and sister in Christ,
Cassie
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Thank you for posting this. It was something I’m glad I read. Love your words!
Lillian
Thank you so much for this message. I know it’s two years old by now but I don’t care. The quote from C.S. Lewis popped into my head this morning on the drive to work and I knew I had to google it when I got here. When I did, I had a few choices on what website to click on. I was directed to yours and viola! I read a message that hit me straight in the heart. Thank you again.