When I ask God to search my heart and help me weed out all the un-Godly things with GODLY things, it is always a heart opening experience! And it is usually things that I already think I am doing pretty well on! The last few months have been a journey that has brought me much peace and joy in my life.
God decided I needed some work and started me out with a difficult job in the area of submission! (I actually did not see that I really had much of a problem!) But pride always comes before every fall! 
He began to show me I was not happily and willingly submitting – either to my God or my husband. The realization of how I just might not be where I needed to be in that area broke me! Sadly, I began to see how my short, quick-temembered responses to my husband hurt him; how I would submit, but do it with a grudging heart. For example, there were times I would say, “No, I want you to decide honey!” But then, I would quickly say without being asked, “MY personal opinion is…” How often I would TELL him to make a decisoin, but how often I would really want control of his answer!
In other words, I wanted him to do what I wanted. That really says I do not trust him, and in return, I do not trust God! I began to realize it is really not about what I want or what I like or what is easy! It is about letting my husband be the leader of our home. And because he is a Godly man (and even if he was not), I need to trust his decisions and allow him to make them without manipulating him into doing things my way! You see, I like to be in control! I have certain ways that I like to do things. He just does not…well…do things the way I would do them most some of the time! But that does not make me right! In fact, more often than not, I have found that HIS way has turned out to be the better way! Surprise, surprise! (My guess is, God knew what He was doing when He made my husband the leader of our home and for me to be under his submission!) Hmmm… imagine that! I am so blessed to have a man who does ask for my opinion and takes to heart my view of things. BUT, I must allow HIM to have the final say. He must truly know and believe that he does, but that is just plain hard sometimes! However, the blessing that has followed has been incredible!
My children used to be so confused! How were they supposed to learn to trust their daddy if their mom did not! How can my girls learn to trust their husbands someday and bring blessings to them if they don’t see their own mom submitting to her husband? How can they learn to trust and submit to their parents if they have not seen ME submit to God and know that HE can be trusted? Submission has eternal ramifications whether you choose to do it or not! It is not always easy, but it is ALWAYS best! It will bring blessing to your entire family for the days and the years to come!
James 4:7&8 ~ Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you! Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you
In Christ,
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I have been married to my wonderful husband for 17 years and have 11 beautiful arrows that we are raising up for the next generation of Christs army! Just wanting more of God and less of me, but oh the battle of the flesh is so there and real! The more I learn the less I know, EXCEPT the knowledge of knowing Jesus Christ!
What a wonderful article! Thank you for sharing it. God has been teaching me these same things as well in regards to my husband. It’s encouraging to know that I’m not alone in this journey of learning TRUE submission!
Great post! I couldn’t have wrote it better myself…even had the thought of stealing it!
(With reference of course!)
Michelle~ feel free to use it! It is something we all can use and it feels great to know that other women need a dose of understanding when it come to submission! I need it everyday!